As I’ve navigated the “healing cave” the past two months, without being able to work as much as I’m used to, I’ve had a lot of time to contemplate my own relationship with money. For someone in the spiritual world, I’ve learned extensively about Abundance consciousness, how to manifest money and things, how not to go into scarcity, and how to keep myself magnetic and at a higher energetic state. All of this is beautiful AND I’m realizing it’s not the full Truth of the matter.
Abundance vs. Bypass
Manifesting Abundance in our lives, and the way it’s often portrayed in the spiritual and coaching world, can often drift into the world of spiritual bypass. Spiritual bypass is when we skip over the hard or difficult truth and essentially pretend it’s not there in order to feel the good feelings of “love and light.” It’s essentially skipping the hard work of the yoga class to get to the dessert of savasana (or spreading frosting on a cupcake made of shit to make it look nice from the outside). You pick your metaphor. ;)
At its worst, spiritual bypass, plays out on the world stage as white people pretending that racism no longer exists and wanting to skip to the “we’re all connected and one” place without doing the work to get there. Or it can look like many of us pretending that climate change doesn’t exist because it feels too overwhelming to do the work needed to take true responsibility for our Earth. When it comes to money and Abundance, I’ve been feeling that we may be bypassing some hard truths in the name of not coming from a “scarcity mindset.”
Abundance vs. Consumerism
The Truth is that an important part of spirituality and Abundance consciousness includes the Earthy acts of discipline and DEVOTION to our Higher Selves. Part of clearing out scarcity mentality from our cells includes looking into the uncomfortable parts of us: maybe the parts that don’t want to truly look at our finances and face the fact that we’re spending more than we’re making; or the parts that don’t want to admit that when we’re feeling sad or lonely, we tend to hit the “order” button on Amazon (or shopping site of choice) in order to fill our emotional holes. #beentheredonethat ;)
The Truth is that when we feed our emotional voids with that hit of dopamine that comes with opening a new package in the mail (especially when that package was made in a way that does not honor Mother Earth or its inhabitants), we are not embracing true Abundance.
Saying yes to buying something that isn’t a 100% yes in our bodies just to distract ourselves from the discomfort of quiet time, is an act of fear and scarcity, not Abundance. It’s actually us acting unconsciously from the patriarchal consumerism being pumped through our cells at lightening speed. Our beliefs that spending lots of money at fancy coffee shops or fill-in-the-blank restaurants or wearing certain brands has anything to do with our worth as a human are actually just lies.
I have been guilty of all of these things and more. Lately I’ve had the time (albeit uncomfortable time) to go within and really deconstruct some of the patriarchal money habits within me. The spending habits that are not serving me in a sustainable way. I’ve gotten really good at manifesting Abundance and not going into debt, but I realized I’ve been (in the past) spending every dollar I manifest and not saving for my future.
The Truth is our worth and Source is infinite and inherent and has nothing to do with how many things we buy. The Truth is honoring ourselves and our future is a way of honoring the Elder versions of ourselves, the sustainability of our Earth, and the Feminine.
Abundance & Joyful Discipline
I used to think I sucked at things like consistency, commitment and follow through. The word “discipline” made me cringe. I would buy all sorts of things: books, online courses, clothes, etc. that I wouldn’t start, finish, or even wear. There was no follow through. Or I thought I just wasn’t “good at it.”
Then I learned the term “Joyful Discipline” from my professors at the University of Santa Monica. Finding JOY and fulfillment in taking consistent and committed action steps. Very Mama Earth energy. Very sustainable. And guess what—it’s actually what leads to TRUE FREEDOM.
Joyful Discipline and commitment (which feel in my body like fulfillment, groundedness and empowerment) do not equal scarcity consciousness (which feel in my body like fear, worry, and scatteredness). Quite the opposite: Joyful Discipline and Commitment are the true and integrous foundation to the Freedom of Abundance.
Abundance & Devotion
It turned out that I actually was very capable at follow through and consistency, and healthy boundaries with others and myself, when I had a compelling purpose or North Star that those steps were in service of.
This is where Devotion comes in. To me, Devotion is LOVE and commitment in Service of a higher purpose. It is taking love-guided action steps towards a North Star or higher goal of some sort. What is that North Star? Maybe it’s showing commitment and taking daily and consistent action as a caregiver towards the recovery of a loved one (or yourself) when experiencing a health challenge or diagnosis. Maybe it’s saying no to unhealthy foods and activities while you’re pregnant, in service of birthing a healthy baby. Maybe it’s starting to honor and commit to yourself by reigning in your spending habits in order to honor yourself and save for your future; in order to ensure that you are sustained, and able to healthily and happily serve your purpose in this world, for the long haul.
On my own Abundance journey, I have learned that being in healthy relationship with money is similar to being in healthy relationship with our loved ones or even our bodies. That similar to how we can devote time and energy into our relationships or our health through reading books, going to therapy, creating boundaries around date nights, eating habits, etc.; we can put time and effort into learning about money, looking at our money situation, and being intentional and devoted in how we are stewards of that money. All of these forms of devotion pay off in spades, in service of the growth of our love, health and our Abundance. That energy that we devote comes back to us multiplied, as our money, bodies and loved ones know they can trust how we’ll care for them.
How we honor our money, our bodies, each other, and Mother Earth are all forms of us truly honoring the Divine Feminine. And when the Feminine is honored, respected and her needs are being met, look the F- out. She is powerful, infinite, and Abundant AF. And she is the most pure form of generosity. Respect and honor the Feminine, and you will experience true Abundance.
Trade in that patriarchal and consumerist-driven dopamine hit, for the long-term fulfillment of devotion and sustainability. Your body, our earth, and your future self will thank you.
*Let us all bow down to the Feminine and the Abundance of Mother Earth. Let us anchor the Divine Feminine in this world with reverence, respect and DEVOTION. And so it is.*
Loving you hard with Devotion & Abundance,
p.s. The next round of the 40-day Abundance meditation group is launching on the New Moon in Sagittarius: November 23, 2022 and our collective intention and theme will be: Abundance and Devotion! If you are called to join this nourishing container as we meditate for 15-20 minutes per day for 40 days straight on a daily Abundance mantra, send me a note here to receive more details and register. Doors close to this container on 11/22nd at 12pmET. Investment is $44 or $22 for Warrior Grads. We got this, together. xoxo
Resources & Where to go from here:
Here are some journal prompts for you to start with in your own Abundance & Devotion journey:
What is your North Star? What higher calling or purpose (big or little) are you in service of and willing to devote your energy and money towards?
What do you see when you look closely at your relationship with money? How are you stewarding that money? How are you using it to respect yourself, present and future?
What does the energy of Devotion feel like in your body? Abundance?
What are some of the daily, consistent action steps you can commit to in devotion to your own health and wholeness, or your North Star? What boundaries can you set/ what can you say “no” to in service of the bigger “YES” of your sustainability, fulfillment and service in this world? How can your money be an energetic expression of that devotion?
Here are some references on the topic if you’re inspired to look further (also linked to above):
Tina Meyers is an Intuitive Coach and Feminine Leadership Facilitator and the founder of Women Advocates Rising and WARRIOR SCHOOL. She is a former attorney, and a seeker of creativity, courage, aliveness, and transformation in her own life and the lives of others.