...at least for decision-making, that is. :)
So it turns out that a big gut might actually be good for you! No I’m not talking about the size of the belly spilling over your elastic waistband. I’m talking about a big and strong gut instinct or intuitive sense. We’ve all heard people say “Follow your gut” or “What does your gut tell you?” but how the heck do we know what our gut is telling us? And why do we care what it says?
It turns out our gut instincts are a form of intuition, and in their purest form can be an awesome way of getting some super helpful guidance in this crazy world of ours. How exciting that we are actually carrying around a little internal guidance system that can help us make decisions in line with our best interests on a daily basis??!! Our gut is like our own Inner Yoda that sends us strong messages and insights before our monkey minds can shut it up with doubts and fears.
Our gut feelings and intuitive guidance always have our best interests in mind. The (often difficult) key is to separate our gut feelings from the fears and doubts that our monkey mind throws in the mix.
It is always best to make a decision when we are in a more positive state of mind—when we are feeling a mix of excited and scared at the same time. The worst time to make decisions is when we are feeling low, fearful, and drained. Making decisions out of fear usually does not lead to the best result for us (at least it hasn’t for me).
So how do you know the difference between a thought from your monkey mind (ego) and an intuitive gut instinct? The gut instinct is more of a feeling—how does your body feel when you think about the options you are trying to choose from? When you visualize yourself choosing a particular option, do you feel a mix of excited and a little scared? Or do you feel drained, heavy, and exhausted?
If you feel excited at a possibility but a little (or a lot) nervous about the prospect of making a change, that is usually a good sign. If the possibility makes you feel drained and sluggish, your gut is likely telling you it’s not a good idea.
Once you’re clear on what your gut is telling you about a certain situation or decision, the next (often difficult) key is to summons the courage to actually take your gut’s advice. Listening to our gut is often one of the scariest things we have to do. But oftentimes, the prospect of staying the same, and ignoring our gut, is even more unbearable.
It’s times like these that I like to break things down into miniature, teeny, tiny, baby action steps. For example, does your gut tell you to be an artist when you currently work as an accountant? Well that prospect could make anyone vomit with fear! Instead, why not take a teeny, tiny (I’m talking miniscule here) action step every day that will gently and easily move you forward in that direction?
For example, when you get home from your accountant job, do a 30 second google search on books written by corporate folks who made the transition into the art world. Or look up the community education schedule in your town to see if there are any art classes you might want to take.
The key is to listen to that nice, big gut of yours, and take small enough steps forward that you trick your ego into thinking you’re just “exploring” something as opposed to making any sort of big, scary change. (Note: Egos don’t like change.)
The cool thing is you can actually strengthen your gut on a daily basis (no I’m not talking about sit-ups). Any time you want to make even a harmless decision (i.e. where to go to dinner tonight or what movie to watch), check in with your gut and practice listening to it.
Picture yourself doing each of the possibilities and then see how your body feels with each one. Then go with the one that feels better to your gut.
The awesome news is that once we start listening to our gut, and taking small steps in that direction, the Universe gets super excited and steps in to support us! Each next step will be revealed to us, one at a time.
What would your gut tell you if you listened to it right now? (After it says, “Eat a cheeseburger,” of course. :)) I want to hear about it in the comments below!
Yours in Big Guts and Inner Yodas,
Throw on your stonewashed jeans and get out your Big League Chew because I’m about to get all 1980’s and Kevin Costner in this blog!
Some twenty five years after the box office first released Field of Dreams, I finally saw it for the first time last weekend. My reason for finally watching it was not because there was an 80’s movie marathon on television, nor because I was celebrating spring and the beginning of baseball season (although I am excited about both of those things). Instead I watched it because the Universe gave me some really strong signs that I had to for some reason. Here’s a recap on how my “Inner Box Office” led me to watch this inspiring movie:
Weeks ago I randomly thought of Field of Dreams while my boyfriend and I were scanning Netflix for something to watch that night. It popped into my head and I thought it would be perfect since he loves sports movies and I love feel-good inspiring movies. I thought, “Field of Dreams is our movie match-made-in-heaven!” But then we couldn’t find it on Netflix and we just kind of forgot about it.
Then came this past weekend when I was participating in a Career Intuitive Coaching training webinar. As part of the training, we had to give practice sessions to other participants in the group (whom we had never met before). As luck would have it, a beautiful woman named Helen was selected to give my reading on Saturday afternoon.
Helen is extremely intuitive and throughout the session was spot on with some of her insights into my life and her guidance for me. About half way into the session, she giggled and told me there was a really random movie reference that came up during her meditation on me and also that kept coming up in her head during our session. She apologized in advance if it didn’t make any sense to me but thought she should share it just in case.
She then said, “If you build it, they will come.” Pause. “You know, from that movie Field of Dreams.”
I laughed and told her how we had just been talking about watching that movie. I also told her how the quote made me think of my business; that when I put the effort into growing it, the clients that will most benefit from my coaching always find me organically. I then made a mental note that I should really watch that movie and proceeded to forgot about it again.
Literally four hours after the session, after going out to dinner, my boyfriend (who had no idea what happened during my session) turned to me and said “We should watch Field of Dreams tonight.” My mouth fell open and I just stared at him in awe.
He then laughed and whispered “If you build it, they will come.”
Needless to say, that was a strong enough message from the Universe to get through to even my sometimes-oblivious head. We watched the movie that night and I was blown away at what a beautiful metaphor it was for following our intuition—even when it does not make logical sense or seems impossible.
Who knew a baseball movie from the 80’s could inspire me to follow my gut, whether or not it might seem crazy to my logical brain (or to my friends and family)? My logical “thinking” mind certainly didn’t know, but my intuition did. And Helen’s intuition did. And apparently my boyfriend’s intuition did on some level too.
Sure this could all be explained away as a coincidence. But I believe that there is something bigger going on in life than our logical brains might understand. How exciting that we all have an internal guidance system telling us to do things that will inspire us and help us grow in life!
Sometimes that guidance takes the form of multiple people telling you to watch a certain movie or read a certain book. Sometimes you might keep seeing or hearing about a certain location that you should visit. Or, like in the movie, maybe a voice tells you to mow down perfectly good crops to build a baseball field on your farm! What would happen if we all started listening to that guidance and seeing where it leads?
What has your gut been telling you to do that might seem crazy? I want to hear about it in the comments below!
Yours in Inspiration and Baseball,
p.s. One other thing I learned after watching Field of Dreams is that the quote is actually “If you build it, he will come.” Who knew? Probably the Universe. ;)
Wow. Today is a big day for me. I have been thinking about launching this blog and website for over 6 months and have come up with one excuse after another as to why I had to wait a little longer. Every excuse was very convincing and seemingly necessary— I had to get the perfect domain name; I had to look for jobs; I had to do homework for my master’s program; I had to record a perfect video for my homepage; I had to read 8,000 articles on writing blogs and launching websites so I could “do it right.”
It turns out, as helpful as those steps were, they were just my brain’s way of distracting me from the real truth: I was afraid to really show the public my authentic self. I was afraid to write a blog from my heart and be vulnerable in front of other people who might disagree or criticize me, or who might not like the real me. I was afraid to “come out of the closet.”
Anyone who is brave enough to write a blog is “putting themselves out there.” The internet is vast and we all know about the cyber-bullying and other unfiltered negative commentary that flies around the web at the speed of light. The truth is, the idea of writing a blog with a “comments” section below it scares the sh*t out of me. What if someone writes a negative comment about something I write?
But the bigger truth is, deep down I long to inspire and uplift people with positive and thoughtful posts. I yearn to add some positive sunlight into a world with so much negativity.
So I’m feeling scared and I’m doing it anyway. I’m coming out of the “spiritual closet.” Some people might not understand or might think I’m wacky, but at least I’m being authentic. And if I inspire just one person out there to step up and be brave and authentic in whatever scares them in life—to come out of whatever their closet might be—then I’m happy.
So here I am world! Yes I am an attorney and yes I love the environment and yes I’m from Buffalo. I’m also a very spiritual person who is fascinated by all these crazy new agey philosophies and finding more positive ways of looking at our experiences on this planet. Yes I believe in God or Spirit or the Universe or whatever you might call it and yes I believe in angels and fairies and the power of intuition and numerology.
And what I believe in most of all is being true to myself, and my true self is here to help and heal and inspire others to do the same.
I did it. I came out of the spiritual closet. And I already feel stronger and more complete.
Now what can you do today that scares the living sh*t out of you? I want to hear about it in the comments below!
Yours in Courage and Authenticity,
Tina Meyers is a Co-Active Coach, a Certified Career Intuitive Coach, an attorney by training, and a seeker of creativity, courage, bliss, and transformation in her own life and the lives of others.
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